I’m pretty good at keeping those voices in check – and I realize that all people will not be an energetic match for me and that’s ok. Guess that’s why there are so many people out there in the world so we can choose those that resonate with us.

blessings,
Gina

I have 4 planets in Virgo, ALL in conjunction – take that!

That’s classic.

I totally agree on the brain-override piece, too; I saw the same behavior for years as a healer in all sorts of situations. I wasn’t taught to see it as a brain thing, but hey, if the shoe fits, and all. Same result, right? Thanks for sharing that insight.

And Janet, you’re welcome. Definitely stay. Definitely breathe.

So, mantra for the week: Stay. Big outbreath.

So glad to have found your blog through Mark Silver! I have 4 planets in Virgo, ALL in conjunction – take that! And thanks Chris for the key about Virgo’s idealism – it feels great to claim that quality.

I totally agree with you, Adam, about seeing all the “parts” as me and learning to accept them.

I’m also a former molecular biologist and I happen to love brain science and I believe I’ve come to understand some of the biological basis of perfectionism.

I’ve realized that our “fight or flight brain” has what I call an internal card file of everything that was ever scary in our life. And it compares the current moment to the database constantly.

And when we get too close to something that was scary, like potential judgment, it launches a strategy to get us to “safety”. That’s where the crazy-making behavior and evil whispers tend to come in! And it’s pretty tough to think our way out of this, because the brain stem is designed to constantly over-ride our logic brain when it comes to getting us away from danger.

So, my approach now, is to see my perfectionism as a loving protector and messenger of remembered danger. And instead of shooting it, I stop and breathe and thank it for the warning. And then I just get into my heart, because heart trumps brain stem every time. Try it – it works!
Cheers.

Thanks for the balanced perspective on the whole Virgo piece; I like your take on it much more than mine. Oh, and the reason I seem to know my own chart is that I had it ‘read’ for me a couple of times many years ago… you can see what stuck out in my memory!

Thanks for coming by and leaving a comment… I look forward to getting to know you more, too, in the blogosphere and at @wildheartqueen.

And sure, Tom, perfectionists exist online… but I tend to be able to spot them just about everywhere.

Davina, it’s a back-and-forth, isn’t it, between wild-haired exhilaration, and tight-lipped monitoring, the ‘censors’ and the ‘freedom-fighters’ sure seem to have quite an active relationship.

I hope to see you around some more…

I found you through Sara Healy and I’m so glad I did — thanks Sara! Very real writing here. Guess you told that sensor to take a hike?

I have a Virgo rising… suppose that qualifies me as having the “curse”. Plus, I’ve enabled this for the last 20 years working as a proofreader, until my layoff in 2007.

Blogging gives me a chance to enjoy and let my hair down, although I still have that tendency to “sensor” things. I love how you put it that your brilliance never gets shared with others if you sensor too much.

I think that someone needs to do a survey on how many bloggers are Virgos! It seems like we ( yes, I am one too) are disproportionately represented on the internet.

Well, as Virgos our reigning healthy passion is the capacity to be idealistic and to envision how the world and ourselves can be better while also having a realistic sense about how to manifest those ideals into the three dimensional world. I guess the blogosphere is a great place to try and make that happen.

Also, for someone who purports to understand very little about astrology, you sure seem to know a lot about your individual chart. As an astrologer, with the configuration you just mentioned, I wouldn’t say that you are frogged. As long as you achieve soul perfection and total enlightenment this lifetime, you’ll be just fine! No pressure (-:

I’m really enjoying your posts. I’m glad that I found you and am looking forward to more.

Chris